The weekly check-in, built into the week.

Couples are told to “check in regularly” by roughly every article ever written about relationships, and almost nobody does it, because a check-in with no material is a conversation that starts with “so… how was your week?” and ends four minutes later.

The review works here because the week is already written down. You are not trying to remember what happened. You are looking at it.

Private until mutual

Neither of you can see what the other wrote until you have both submitted. This is enforced in the code, in both directions, and it is the rule the whole ritual depends on.

Without it, the second person to answer is not reflecting — they are responding. They have read the verdict and they are writing a reply to it. One-sided honesty is the failure mode of every shared journal, and the fix is mechanical rather than a request to be fair.

Private notes never cross at all, in either direction, submitted or not.

The two questions at the front

Before you see anything, you answer two: how many things do you think your partner did this week, and how many do you think you did. Both optional.

Then your guesses are laid next to the actual record. This is the part people tell us about. The gap is usually large, it usually runs the same direction for both of you, and it is the single most useful thing on the screen — not because somebody was wrong, but because it is very hard to keep believing you are the only one carrying things while looking at a number you produced yourself thirty seconds ago.

Counts, never scores. And quiet mode turns the whole exercise off, because a couple who put the numbers away asked not to be compared.

Your day, your timezone, one reminder

You pick the review day together, and the week is cut at your own local midnight. Change the day later and you get a short transition week rather than having the week you are standing in reshaped around you.

There is one email a week, only when the review is not done, and it can be switched off in a single click from the message itself — no sign-in, no preference centre, no three-step flow. A weekly email nobody can stop gets reported as spam, and that damages delivery of every message the product sends, including the password reset somebody is locked out without.

Nothing scolds you

There are no streaks to break, no red states and no down arrows. Miss a week and the app says nothing about it. If something real was going on, name it as a life context and the week is read against what that week actually was.